Thursday, September 30, 2010

Marriage Myth Number Uno: Over time we will grow more alike. Ha!

I've been married 22 years 1 month and 8 days. I am not an expert--but let's just say I am experienced! I think it would be valuable at this time to share my vast experience with all of you, to help you along that rose strewn rocky path, by uncovering some marriage myths.
So young and so hopeful!
I think one of the most dangerous myths is: Over time we will grow more alike!

I love my husband--I look at him today and think how lucky I am. I could never have guessed all the good he had in him. I still find him astonishingly handsome and still sexy (kids don't read that part). But -- I have no idea what is going on in that brain of his.

We have given up even being interested in each other's t.v. He finds my shows boring! Fantastic shows like America's Next Top Model. (I love watching dumb beautiful people! I can't help it - they can be teenage vampires, hot burned ex-spies, hot disgraced doctors, you get the picture.) He hates cooking shows and he's bored by home decorating shows (okay so no shocker there). He is even bored by --yes, you should be prepared to gasp -- Law and Order!  He has an aversion to gruesome detective dramas like the CSI's of the world. I don't know why but I love those (maybe it's back to the pretty people doing anything, even gross things).  He also doesn't love B end of the world movies that I've grown oh so fond of.

So what do I find him watching when I come into the bedroom --Arrested Development over and over and over, Thirty Rock (ok I love that too) and anything that has Chevy Chase, Mike Meyers, John Belushi, John Candy, or anyone who was ever on Saturday Night Live ever! I like these guys too the first time I see the movie, but the tenth, no way. Also what is it with men and movies where people throw-up. I hate seeing people throw-up!

Then there's music. I know he is the expert, but I am tired of classic rock. You can boo me all you want, but I want something new. He has a huge aversion to basic pop -- I don't -- because I need something in my life that I don't have to think so hard about even if it's Delilah! We do have common ground on Eric Clapton, Beatles, John Mayer and Radio Head. Phew.

A few years ago - a few pounds ago and blond hair! Oh my!
The saving grace after 22 years is that we are much more tolerant. If he listens to Led Zeppelin, I don't tell him that he is going to H E double hockey sticks. When I'm watching the Lifetime Movie Network he just snorts and leaves instead of thinking he has to sit and watch and then finds himself unable to keep from making wisecracks all the way through.

Now that's heaven.

1 comment:

  1. I think when you first get married, you try and conform to each other and watch the same things or do the same things...when you get older, you get more comfortable with each other and are willing to say, 'I really don't want to watch Dinner for Schmucks with you' so you end up inviting your brother in law to watch it.